To the other mommas in waiting…
I want you to know that you are not forgotten.
While your womb may be empty and it seems that everyone around you in getting pregnant so easily, I want you to know that God sees you. He sees the hurt, the longing, the deep-rooted desires, the jealousy and it hurts Him too. He holds you in the palm of his hand and He longs to fill your arms with a baby. He hasn’t overlooked you…how could He? You’re His own precious child.
“How precious and weighty also are Your thoughts to me, O God! How vast the sum of them! If I could could them, they would be more in number than the sand.” Psalm 139:17-18
“If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare His own Song, but gave Him up for us all — how will He not also, along with Him, graciously give us all things?” Romans 8:31-32
I want you to know that your feelings are valid.
Infertility is hard and often quite lonely. And dang, there are so many emotions that go along with it. In a month I can go from feeling confident and content to an emotional mess with the right trigger. So while you might be able to slap on a smile and muster a genuine “congrats” every time a friend falls pregnant, it’s ok to also feel some sadness and to maybe have to skip out on that one extra baby shower. Your friends might never fully understand, but I do. Send a card and a gift while you enjoy a nice pedicure and glass of wine.
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Phil 4:13
“I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned and heard my cry…He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God.” Ps 40:1.3
I want you to know that you are not alone.
You may feel completely along, but you’re not. Whatever you are going through, I guarantee you’re not the first to struggle with it. Want some encouragement? Spend some time reading the stories of the couples in the Bible who struggled to conceive. From Abraham and Sarah, to Hannah, to Elizabeth and more…God blessed every couple who cried out to Him with a child, and He wants to do the same for you.God does not change! The same God who answered their prayers offers the same power and healing to us today! I highly recommend finding a friend that you can talk about this struggle with. If you feel like you don’t have anyone you can talk to, then join the discussion on one of the blogs I recommend below. You’ll find a lot of girls there going through the same hard season.
- Abraham and Sarah (Heb 11:11-12, Rom 4:16-24)
- Isaac and Rebekah (Gen 25:19-26)
- Jacob, Rachel and Leah (Gen 29:30-31:1-3, Gen 30:20-25, Gen 30:17,22, Gen 35:23-26)
- Elkanah and Hannah (1 Samuel 1:1-28)
- Zechariah and Elizabeth (Luke 1:5-20, 1:36-37)
- The Shunamite Woman (2 Kings 4:8-17)
- Manoah’s Wife (Judges 13)
“Even Elizabeth your relative is going to have a child in her old age, and she who was said to be barren is in her sixth month. For nothing is impossible with God.” Luke 1:37
I want you to know that you are fearfully and wonderfully made by the God of the universe.
The Bible says that He knitted you together in your mother’s womb and that He knows the number of hairs on your head. You are uniquely you, and that is beautiful. Don’t let any doctor or diagnosis tell you otherwise.
“Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbers. Don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.” Luke 12:7
“The LORD your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing.” Zephaniah 3:17
I want you to know that it IS possible.
I don’t care what the doctors say. I don’t care if they say your eggs are too old or your uterus is the wrong shape or your hubbies fish don’t swim in the right direction or x or y or z. I had my own “impossible” diagnosis and God healed me! I’ve heard SO many testimonies of God doing amazing things in people’s bodies. Our diagnosis can never measure up to God’s facts, and His word says that all things are possible. He is fighting for you.
“Is anything too hard for the Lord?” Genesis 18:14
“For I am the LORD, who heals you.” Ex 15:26
“Worship the Lord your God, and His blessing with be on your food and water. I will take away sickness from amoung you, and none will miscarry or be barren in your land. I will give you a full life span.” Exodus 23:25-26
“But I will restore you to health and heal your wounds,’ declares the Lord…” Jeremiah 30:17
I want you to know that your prayers DO make a difference.
Does it ever feel like your prayers just aren’t making a difference? My advice…keep praying! Pray until you get your answer. If you are a believer, the Bible says that the same power and authority that rose Jesus from the dead is in us today. God has given us authority over all sickness and disease — that includes infertility — we just have to use it. Learn how to pray effective prayers and start declaring God’s word over your body and your circumstances.
“And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick person well; the Lord will raise him up. If he has sinned, he will be forgiven.” James 5:15
“Have faith in God. For assuredly I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, “Be removed and be cast into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that those things he says will be done, he will have whatever he says.” Mark 11:22-23
“This is the confidence we have in approaching God; that if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us. And if we know that He hears us — whatever we ask — we know that we have what we asked of Him.” 1 John 5:14-15
I want you to know that there is beauty in the wait.
Oh, this is a big one and you might not believe it now. See, in the midst of all the pain and the longing there is a promise…actually, lots of wonderful promises. And God is faithful to all of His promises. The beauty comes when we lay our burdens at His feet and rest in those promises, when we trust in His power and know that He is good and He is for us. God LOVES to redeem broken hearts and situations. Will you let him enter in and restore yours?
“I will not be afraid but will trust in God and what His word says.” Psalm 56:3-4
“I wait for the Lord, my soul waits, and in His word I put my hope. My soul waits for the Lord more than the watchman waits for the morning.” Ps 130:5-6
” I am still confident in this: I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.” Ps 27:13-14
I want you to know that if you get pregnant, I’ll rejoice with you.
If you have struggled to fall pregnant and then find yourself staring down at those blessed two pink lines, I want to know! There is a unique bond between women who have struggled with infertility. We just get each other. So while it might kinda hard to hear about Betty Lou who just looked at her husband again and got pregnant for the tenth time, hearing about God answering the prayers of a sister who has been in waiting fills my heart with so much hope. There is a reason we share testimonies! It builds the faith of those who need it.
“Blessed is she who has believed that what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished.” Luke 1:45
The wait is hard but we can trust in God to be faithful to us! Rest assured that He is good and His love for you is without limits. You are not alone! If you need prayer, just ask! I’d love to pray for you.
More resources for the wait
God’s Plan for Pregnancy by Nerida Walker
Supernatural Pregnancy by Jackie Mize
Praying God’s Word Day by Day by Beth Moore
PUSH: Pray Until Something Happens by Jurgeon Mattethius
Healing Promises by Joseph Prince
Blogs I Follow and Recommend:
Amazing Testimony to Build Your Faith: